One day that’s tough for everyone is Transition Day, the day when your stepchildren will be either coming to your house or transitioning back to Mom’s house. Emotions run high because your stepkids are adjusting to different rules or possibly even a different role. They might be a younger sibling in one household and an
I knew from the time I was about 13 years old that I didn’t want to have children. My sister, Rachel, and I would babysit together, and I enjoyed playing with the kids, but Rachel would change all of the diapers. Rachel talked about getting married and having kids one day, and I talked about
A lot of stepmoms ask me about resources for their stepchildren that will address stepfamily issues. They want to find books with characters who are part of a stepfamily, so their stepchildren can relate to the characters and the types of issues they’re having. This helps stepfamilies open up a dialogue on how the children
Valentine’s Day: a day that people seem to either love or despise. Just the other day, while I was eating lunch, I overheard two women chatting about it. “Valentine’s Day is the worst! It’s such a commercial holiday, and it just makes me feel lonely,” one woman exclaimed. The other woman nodded earnestly. “I know!
Ahhh, the beginning of the new year. A fresh start, a clean slate, a new beginning. Forget about last year—that’s old news! Everything is new and different now. New and different?! Wait a second…not so fast! We’re so used to the frantic lifestyle that has become a trademark of our times that we automatically catapult into the
Dr. Gottman, marriage and relationship researcher, has a phrase he frequently uses in his couples counseling sessions. He encourages the idea of “small things often.” This means it’s not the big gestures that make a successful relationship. Rather, it’s actually all the small things you do on a daily basis that contribute to a happy
Do you feel like drama comes along with your stepchildren? Do you ever think to yourself: if my stepkids weren’t here, I wouldn’t have to deal with their mother? If you’re dealing with a high conflict biological mom, you might have trouble separating those negative feelings you have for bio mom from the feelings you
According to an article in the Journal of Social and Clinical Psychology, gratitude may have the strongest connection to happiness of any of the personality traits studied. In fact, “18.5 percent of individual differences in people’s happiness could be predicted by the amount of gratitude they feel,” asserts Janice Kaplan, author of The Gratitude Diaries.
Stepmoms, bring your kids and stepkids to check out The Artisan Fest at Odysea in the Desert! The Artisan Fest features a Kids Art Zone with new projects every month, and I will be leading the Kids Art Zone on November 10th! Join us to experience a special stepfamily activity centered around gratitude. My stepdaughter
Let’s take a break from all of the hustle and bustle of our everyday lives, take a few deep breaths, and reflect on this past year. We can start by shifting our focus from thoughts of the future and what we’re going to do to thoughts of what we have done. We can do this