The best way to predict your future is to create it. -Peter Drucker
Excerpt from Day 2 of Stepmom Bootcamp: A 21-Day Challenge
Visualize and Set Goals
Now that you have completed your Future Self visualization, the next step is to set goals to help you become that woman you want to be.
Let’s imagine that your future self is a self-assured, confident woman who invites you into her home. She lives in a seaside cottage, set high upon a hill overlooking the Pacific Ocean. Her house is light, airy, and welcoming, with bright accent colors such as turquoise and coral. You notice artifacts from her travels around the room. You see pictures of her and her partner on the beach, as well as pictures of her stepkids and grandkids near a waterfall.
She starts talking excitedly about her latest trip with her spouse to Macchu Pichu in Peru. She mentions that she is also looking forward to seeing her stepkids and grandkids this summer. They are all getting together at a resort in Zion National Park. They’re going to go hiking, fishing, and have s’mores around a bonfire in the evenings.
So you see that your future self has a healthy marriage and she also has a good relationship with her stepkids. You get the impression that she sees her stepkids and grandkids on a regular basis, and they enjoy their time together. You notice that your future self likes to travel, both with her spouse, and also with her stepkids and grandkids. If that’s the case, you should set some goals to travel as a couple, and also plan separate trips with your stepkids.
You also notice that your future self seems happy in her marriage. When you think about your current relationship with your partner, you realize that in order to have a happier marriage, you need to have better communication with your spouse about your stepchildren. Hence, it becomes one of your goals that you write down. Or maybe you realize that you’re not as loving as you would like to be. So you write down a goal of leaving a love note or giving a compliment every day.
Your Turn: Write it Down
It’s important to write these goals down, as research has shown if you write them down, you’re 42 percent more likely to achieve them. Write down at least three specific goals to work on. After you’ve written them down, ask yourself these two questions:
- How will I achieve this?
- Which steps will I take on a daily, weekly, and monthly basis?
Take it a Step Further…
Another great way to have a visual reminder of your goals is to create a vision board of the life you want to have in the future. You can also get your whole family involved by having everyone make a vision board of their goals for their future.
♥ How did you feel about your vision of your life 20 years from now? What surprised you most about your future self?
♥ What do you want to keep in mind for the future?
♥ What did you gain from this experience?
Get Started with Stepmom Bootcamp
To discover other strategies that will help you in your stepmom role, check out Stepmom Bootcamp: A 21-Day Challenge. Stepmom Bootcamp has daily challenges that will help you transform your stepmom life.